What do you really want?

What do you really want?

It seems as a very easy question, yet people tend to have a problem with it…

When I ask as a coach to my coachees: “What it is you really want?”, people freeze.  Their faces become tense and the process of intense thinking starts. Some do not even understand the question. They need a proper instruction and explanation of it. Once they realise the meaning of it, they become defensive and angry:

* “What a stupid question?” * “What do you want from me?” * “Why are you asking that?” * “How should I know?” * “I want what my family/friends/boss wants”

Is that last one really your wish? Or you are so afraid of thinking and dreaming for yourself that you hide behind others to have excuse for not doing anything in your life and for yourself. Is that the excuse for keeping the complains regarding your own life?

“What do you really want?” – This simple question is crucial in daily life. If you do not really know what you want, what your dreams are, it is very difficult to create your life and to get something from it.

Of course sometimes one tends to go whenever life will bring him/her. Though is it what most of us want?

Sometimes you have a desire, yet all: “I must”, “I have to”, “What others will say about it?”, “I cannot really do it”; cause that you even do not dare to dream any further. And you forget about it. You suppress it deep inside you. This is not a solution. Of course not all dreams are able to become true. Yet simple having a dream make us happier and ready for an action.

When you have a dream, you have a goal. When you have a goal you become proactive. When you are proactive strange, unexpected and good things happens around you and your life is more creative and more attractive. Than the fact if you will reach a goal / the dream does not matter anymore as your life is meaningful already. When you know what you want, it is much easier to ask for help. It is much easier to plan and go for it.

In professional life also, if you know what you want / who you wanna be, the focus on it brings the effects faster.

So – what do you really want?

What do you really want on LinkedIn

What do you really want


What to write…

What to write…

So many people write these days. So many written and / or visual content around us.

Do I wish to share things with the audience…? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. However, since I could go back with my memories I was always writing a diary, inspired by some books by Lucy Maud Montgomery. My very first paid job was a review of a book by Margit Sandemo. Later I had started with a blog, which due to some life circumstances I stopped for now. Though it is still at the back of my mind, that I wish to go back and continue creative, positive and stress relief process of writing. I am not a writer. I make the mistakes. Yet, I just love to share what is on my mind.

I’ve recently seen LinkedIn info about this Publishing possibility and though: ”Lets give it a try, why not”.

Before becoming a mother, I was always admiring other mothers who in order to be able to take care of their children, created, started and opened a new business. I always knew that in case I will be a mom I would stay with my child. I did not know that my creativity and willingness to be still financially independent will make me think beyond what I used to know and do.

Few years back I became a coach in order to be independent in what and how I wish to do things. At the same time, discovering coaching made me realised that this is something I really wish to do. I learn a lot about myself and others. I became a better person thanks to my clients and I dare to believe they did the same.

When starting with coaching I heard about Virtual Assisting job from a colleague of mine. Though than I thought it was nothing for me, as what could I offer? Nothing further from the truth. Making an inventory of my professional life I have realised that I can do it as I have been an assistant from the begin and in so many different areas.

So here we come – working from home mom: a coach and a virtual assistant – becoming a person I have always admire. Do I like it? – Yes, of course. Is it easy? – Not always. Will I change anything in my career so far? – Absolutely not, as it made me a person I am today.

What to write more….? Well, in the times when nobody can be certain of its work place, its relations with others – just be yourself. It is not always easy. It is not always appreciated. It is not always what your family and friends want – though are we living their lives or ours…?

What to write… on LinkedIn

What to write...

Dream Job of Dorottya Kiss

I have met, or rather heard and seen Dorottya at the networking event /conference for Women’s Day this year on 08 March 2014 in The Hague. Due to the fact that I love dance and that I am motivated by passionate people, I was absolutely fascinated and inspired by  Dorottya’s story and therefore I asked her to share her dream job with all of you…

Name:      Dorottya Kiss


  • Born and lived 17 years in Budapest (Hungary)
  • Currently living 15 in Amsterdam (The Netherlands)
  • The rest …2 years I have worked on ‘sea’…

What is your dream?
I believe this blog wouldn’t have enough place to express my dreams… Dorottya
Perhaps the best answer would be now- that I’m trying to live my dreams…sometimes with success and sometimes with hope to reach the dream…

What is my dream job?
What I have been doing and doing now…Director & Choreographer  & Performing Arts Professional
More recently: Cultural Entrepreneur & Cultural Economists with a Cultural Sociological ‘twist’

In summary I would say: I’am a VISIONARY – CREATIVE & DREAMER – IMPLEMENTER and this is my job…

How did you achieve your goal = dream job?
With a lot of…

  • dreaming, dreaming, dreaming…
  • envisioning
  • studying
  • practicing
  • failure and standing up and failure and standing up…
  • believing, believing, believing
  • collaborating
  • openness…
  • doing doing doing…
  • learning from my faults…

How did you achieve your dream-job? / how do you plan to achieve your goal=dream job?
My answer would be the same as here above the previous answer to the previous question 

What is your tip to others concerning the Dream Job / Life?

  • dream, dream, dream,
  • envision
  • study
  • practice
  • dare to fail and than stand up
  • believe, believe, believe
  • collaborate- and understand when you need to operate alone and when you need teamwork
  • stay open for anything that comes…
  • DO DO DO
  • learning from your faults
  • surround yourself with motivating people, who give you positive energy, but have enough people who are critically challenging you…
  • when things isn’t going the right way…realize YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CHANGE IT…YOU CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY…do something about it….

Who are you?


…A ‘creative’ with a passion for the (performing) arts, (cultural) entrepreneurial activities and for collaborations within and outside the creative fields…

…An individual with -according to my friends, colleagues and teachers- a quite ambitious attitude towards making the world a ‘better place’…

…A person who gets energy by motivating people and helping them to find different ways of perceiving themselves and making the best of their capabilities…

…A woman who -no matter what happened or will happen- refuses to be a victim of people or life in general and who believes: ‘We create our own reality’ …

…and while dreaming and envisioning, creating and implementing, collaborating, motivating and helping others, I’ am Dorottya Kiss who keeps on developing and learning from everything and everybody…

I’ am the Founder & Director of the following non-profit & for-profit companies:

de KISS moves FUSION Dance Company (Since 2005)
BARDooo Art Works – DESIGN (Since 2011)
STAGE 2 CONNECT- The Global Performing Arts Network (Since 2013)

Further on this matter I’ am a:

Dance Industry professional: Dancer & Choreographer (Since 1997)
BA Cultural Scientist (focus: Sociology & Economics of Arts & Culture)  (Since 2013)
MA in Cultural Economics & Entrepreneurship (expected 2014)
MA in Arts and Cultural Sciences (expected 2014)
Besides my first passion for the performing arts (specifically dance art) I have been so lucky to discover science as another ‘obsession’. Besides being a director, choreographer/performing arts professional, general manager, and a co-creative designer and thus a cultural entrepreneur for more than 13 years now, my ambition is not to only integrate science into my works on stage, but also to my everyday life as a professional working mainly within the performing arts industry (however I’m open to any other sectors to collaborate with and to use my know-how).

Cultural Economics, Entrepreneurship and Management, (Cultural) Sociology, Cultural Policy Making & Integration Strategies, Business Creation & Branding, Organizations (its theory, sociology and culture), (Cultural) Entrepreneurship, Urban Development Strategies and in general the Cultural and Creative Industries are areas that catch my main interest. My work experience within many layers of the Performing Arts sector has taught me to adjust to a continuously changing environment and tackle (organizational, financial, psychological etc.) problems with an open mind and a persistent creative approach.

Without being conceited, I do believe that the balance between passion and know-how, art & creativity, business and science confer me with a unique combination of skills that could contribute to the many non-profit and for-profit organizations out there…

Besides being a continuous entrepreneur I’m also highly interested to collaborate with or work for people/ organizations that seek my contribution on a personal-, organizational-, local-, national-, (EU) or international level.

After teaching (different kind of dance techniques and Pilates) for many years and giving (motivational) workshops for dance industry professionals, recently I also started to give motivational speeches and workshops for a more ‘general’ public. This is a new area I’m discovering and enjoying right now.

Within 7 years from now I will publish my first book. I would like to share my story with others and perhaps inspire people to never give up dreaming and realizing those dreams…

Coordinated by Dream Job Diva

Dream Job of Seiko Fujiwara

I have met Seiko in 2009. We both we volunteers of ACCESS. In 2009, together with other girlfriends,  we created CV group, that was the beginning of Connect with your dream job. Even though Seiko left The Netherlands, she is still my friend and I hope one day we will have a chance to meet again. 

Name:               Seiko Fujiwara 

Country/City:     Japan/Tokyo

What is your dream?    seiko
Being happy always. No matter how, I just want to feel happy.

What is my dream job?
Maybe something creative and challenging. Job is a really important element of my life. Through working, I can feel my identity, “I’m here”. In other words, a job I can feel identity is my dream job.

How did you achieve your goal = dream job? / how do you plan to achieve your goal=dream job?
I’m in the way. Just try, do everything I can do, get opportunities I can take.
After coming back to Japan from the 7.5 years stay in the Netherlands, I started to study design. Even though I had enough experiences as a software developer, I could not give up to work as a creator. At that point I was already over 40 years which is the age some people may think it’s too old to start a new thing, but I didn’t think so, and tried it.
The result of that I think I got a step ahead. At this moment I’m standing on the point which might change my life. I’ll keep trying, and in that way I will be able to achieve my dream I believe.

What is your tip to others concerning the Dream Job / Life?
Know what you really want and need. Don’t get swayed by others. Keep yourself. And go for it.

Who are you?
I’m a Japanese woman who is living in Tokyo, working as a system analyst, but dreaming of working as a creator. I love designed, beautiful things. 🙂

Coordinated by Dream Job Diva

Dream Job of Elske van Holk

I don’t even remember when and where for the first time I met Elske. Either it was during Connecting Women monthly meetings, where I was a PR Coordinator, either at many other expat networking events. Elske is a nice and warm person, always smiling 🙂 As Elske is saying networking is one of the most important activities one need to do in order to achieve its goals. I have to shamefully admit, that I have not yet visited STET, however it is on my bucket list. 

Name:    Elske van Holk

Country: The Netherlands

What is your dream?    Elske

When looking around I realise that despite many mishaps in my life I have also been blessed with many wonderful and beautiful happenings. So all in all a lot of my dreams have been accomplished already. I am a lucky person with many dear ones around me. But in general I hope we will be able to hand down the earth to future generations without having done too much damage to it. And I hope that future generations will feel that same responsibility. I firmly believe in the role of art as a uniting tool and experience that can help us going forward on deeper levels and create a better universal understanding for each other in this world. My dream would be that more people can be touched by art and moved positively in protecting their relationships and environment.

What is my dream job?

I qualified as a lawyer and a social worker and did one year of drama school. My first dream job was actually when I lived close to London and worked for Southwark Playhouse, a wonderful studio theatre south of the Thames in London. Southwark Playhouse provides very high quality theatre productions but is also deeply rooted in the community it is based in. So all my skills and loves were being used. I had for six years a great time there. After our return to the Netherlands I set up STET The English Theatre in 2006 and created my own dream-job. As the money was not so great I found another dream-job in 2008 in the Expatriate Archive Centre. As it turned out I had to make a choice in 2013 between the two as the day only has 24 hours. Having found a fabulous successor to lead the Expatriate Archive Centre, I choose to continue at STET. It is incredibly rewarding and enriching to work in and for the international community in The Hague and provide this community with great theatre. So lucky me I am in a dream job once again.

How did you achieve your dream-job? / how do you plan to achieve your goal=dream job?

I think I was lucky that in a way the jobs found me. I believe very much in living your life as organically as possible. So go with the flow. But once I got the jobs, I followed the tips (with ups and downs of course) which I have outlined hereunder. The hardest part is that as a wife, mother and friend you do not like to say NO, when called upon – I have to admit I am still not very good at it, which comes at a price that every now and then I beg for the 48 hour day – which of course is never going to happen. Getting the balance right is a challenge for me and I realise that it sometimes must be hard for my loved ones to live with me.

What are your tips to others concerning the Dream Job/Life?

I have my own business, a theatre is nothing else then a shop. You sell goods that people like to buy. For those who also like to set up their own business, I think my biggest tip is to make sure that your home-base is OK. If your partner, children or circle of friends are grumbling that they do not see you as often as they would like, it is hard, particularly when the hours are long and odd and it is very difficult to generate real income from it.

This brings me to the second tip which is Perseverance, Perseverance, Perseverance. This means that you cannot always please your base, but you can make them aware how important this work is for you, so they accept that you are not always there for them.

Thirdly you have to be prepared to work odd hours (often when others are already asleep).

And lastly it cannot be said enough … network, network and network. Contacts are of the essence when setting up your own business whether it is as a consultant or as a theatre producer, you have to go out and get to know people who can inspire you and help you to develop. And it is equally rewarding to share your own knowledge and skills with others and often creates new opportunities again.

Who are you?

I am a happy person that leads STET The English Theatre. We work for most of our productions in the Koninklijke Schouwburg in The Hague. In Summer we go outdoors and have great open-air productions. Theatre practitioners from around the world are brought in by STET to provide the international community (including many Dutch internationals) with a high quality theatre programme all year round. And STET was one of the producers of the first ever English language Shakespeare Festival, which will continue in the years to come. We also reach out with an extensive education programme to many schools in all of The Netherlands. So have a look at www.theenglishtheatre.nl and hope to see you at one of our performances!

Jo shakespeer

Coordinated by Dream Job Diva

Cooking & Eating the relaxing activities of today…

One thing of many, I love about my international friends, is a fact that each time we arrange the party we do bring our home land meals. That is how I was able to taste food from all over the world without traveling to those countries like Ethiopia, Mexico, Bolivia, US, India, Sri Lanka, Indonesia, Philippines, Japan, Venezuela, Serbia, Turkey, Netherlands, Spain, Chile, Suriname, Georgia, Moldavia, Ukraine, Russia, Bulgaria.

How one can discover and learn about other cultures? Through tasting their food 🙂 

I am happy that my friends are not only preparing and sharing those tasty dishes with me and others but also are eager to share their recipes and teach me abut their food.

Of course I am not a professional cook as my partner, however I love to cook, especially when I have friends who would enjoy the meal with me after all. Sharing a meal and laughter with a friend makes me forget about all dark sides of life and make me appreciate human interaction more and more.

I love to combine different ingredients and create new meal from it. Putting loud music and dancing in the tact of cut veggies – it’s a wonderful, relaxing feeling.

I wish you all a wonderful time while cooking and eating, make best of it. What you eat makes your body and mind function.Good functioning body and positive mind are able to attract better energy and better things into your life: job, partner, babies ….

Below on the photo are ingredients of absolutely divine salad made once by my Georgian friend, just cut and mix everything and enjoy it!!!

Ingredients: the same amount of green apple as avocado, a bit of a dill, few raisins, squeeze of lemon, mustard 


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Nature as a best relax coaching

Last Tuesday I needed to be free from work. After duty tasks, I was able to do whatever I wish to do and due to the sunny and pleasant weather I decided to go for the first time this year to the beach.

It was the best idea of the day, week or even a month. I did not realised this till the moment I have found out myself on the beach, how much I have missed the peacefulness, stillness and beautiful of the surroundings.

Mid of the week during still winter time, makes the beach the perfect place to let your body and thought to fly away into the relax mood.

Sometime one does need to recharge their personal batteries. Pity we are forgetting about it. We managed to charge our phones or tables everyday in order for them to function, yet we completely forgetting about our own body and mind.

Why is that?

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