When a baby sleeps mama can do some work…
I was so tired yesterday that I felt asleep in my cloths, waking up this morning fully dress. I was very disoriented what has happened.
Full time mom and a business woman in one not always work perfectly. There are ups and downs but who doesn’t have it. We are all responsible for our own choices and actions.
1️⃣ My number one priority is my son.
2️⃣ My biggest goal is to be location and financially independent.
3️⃣ My dream is to live with my whole family. Has a little garden and be able to do what I love the most: cooking for my loved one (including making jars and bake cakes). And read, read, read. And finally at the end of the day have a glass of wine with people I love and enjoy the company…
Sometimes I have no power and motivation to work. Yes even a coach can lack motivation from time to time.
Sometimes I just wish to cuddle my son and run away far far from here…
Than I look at my son and I know that I work that hard to be able to enjoy him as much as possible.
It is worth it even though it is hard.
Currently I’m in a stage of rethinking and evaluating my career path and my life goals.
I worked as an assistant to a various international organisations, for many interesting and demanding projects. One day to another I decided to become a Coach. I did not know how challenging and wonderfully knowledgeable process it would be. While taking a coaching training I did not only learn about coaching tools, most importantly I learned a lot about myself.
Coaching people is a rewording job. Working for big organisations as an assistant was a great way to learn not only the administration tools and organisation world itself, but also the range of variety of people from all over the world was the best case study for me as a coach and a person.
Being pregnant and becoming a mother have changed my way of thinking and my perspective what is really important in life. While pregnant I had a chance to follow a Virtual Assistant course and I jumped into it.
Hence now I do both: Coaching and Virtual Assisting.
In both cases I help others. Either by helping to realise someone’s dreams and goals in professional and personal life. Or by providing an administration assisting hand to someone’s business. That way in a coaching process one can finally see that sometimes what matters the most is – You. While providing a Virtual Assisting service we focus on the grow and smooth running of someone’s business. In both cases the focus is on – You -and what you can do best and what makes you smile and wake up every morning.
Recently, somebody asked a general question on a Facebook closed VA group:
”What are 3 things you wish you knew before starting your business?”.
At first I scrolled down, just to come back in a few minutes to give an answer:
”My 3 things will be:
1 – do not quit your current job before establishing your business first (I did it with my coaching career);
2 – I wished I set up my goals more clear at that time (I decided to be a coach while actually my number 1 goal / priority was to have location free and home based work; which I didn’t realize it back than) – hence adding to my coaching also a VA service;
3 – it is very hard to promote and sell yourself – it’s much much easier to do it for somebody else. ”
This one question from Facebook board just made me think. Putting down the answers cleared my mind. Also it lead to this post, as I found it motivating and useful information. I would like to know what other business owners think of those questions
What would you advice yourself back than?
What would you like to know about your business before starting?
Would you like to share it with me and others? That way we all can learn. Those who are thinking of a career switch from a corporate world into a self-employment and those who are already self-employed and struggle or same as myself rethinking and evaluating their current status.
Become a mentor for a moment and teach us all the wise lessons you have experience while starting and running your business.
What do you really want?
It seems as a very easy question, yet people tend to have a problem with it…
When I ask as a coach to my coachees: “What it is you really want?”, people freeze. Their faces become tense and the process of intense thinking starts. Some do not even understand the question. They need a proper instruction and explanation of it. Once they realise the meaning of it, they become defensive and angry:
* “What a stupid question?” * “What do you want from me?” * “Why are you asking that?” * “How should I know?” * “I want what my family/friends/boss wants”
Is that last one really your wish? Or you are so afraid of thinking and dreaming for yourself that you hide behind others to have excuse for not doing anything in your life and for yourself. Is that the excuse for keeping the complains regarding your own life?
“What do you really want?” – This simple question is crucial in daily life. If you do not really know what you want, what your dreams are, it is very difficult to create your life and to get something from it.
Of course sometimes one tends to go whenever life will bring him/her. Though is it what most of us want?
Sometimes you have a desire, yet all: “I must”, “I have to”, “What others will say about it?”, “I cannot really do it”; cause that you even do not dare to dream any further. And you forget about it. You suppress it deep inside you. This is not a solution. Of course not all dreams are able to become true. Yet simple having a dream make us happier and ready for an action.
When you have a dream, you have a goal. When you have a goal you become proactive. When you are proactive strange, unexpected and good things happens around you and your life is more creative and more attractive. Than the fact if you will reach a goal / the dream does not matter anymore as your life is meaningful already. When you know what you want, it is much easier to ask for help. It is much easier to plan and go for it.
In professional life also, if you know what you want / who you wanna be, the focus on it brings the effects faster.
So – what do you really want?
What to write…
So many people write these days. So many written and / or visual content around us.
Do I wish to share things with the audience…? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. However, since I could go back with my memories I was always writing a diary, inspired by some books by Lucy Maud Montgomery. My very first paid job was a review of a book by Margit Sandemo. Later I had started with a blog, which due to some life circumstances I stopped for now. Though it is still at the back of my mind, that I wish to go back and continue creative, positive and stress relief process of writing. I am not a writer. I make the mistakes. Yet, I just love to share what is on my mind.
I’ve recently seen LinkedIn info about this Publishing possibility and though: ”Lets give it a try, why not”.
Before becoming a mother, I was always admiring other mothers who in order to be able to take care of their children, created, started and opened a new business. I always knew that in case I will be a mom I would stay with my child. I did not know that my creativity and willingness to be still financially independent will make me think beyond what I used to know and do.
Few years back I became a coach in order to be independent in what and how I wish to do things. At the same time, discovering coaching made me realised that this is something I really wish to do. I learn a lot about myself and others. I became a better person thanks to my clients and I dare to believe they did the same.
When starting with coaching I heard about Virtual Assisting job from a colleague of mine. Though than I thought it was nothing for me, as what could I offer? Nothing further from the truth. Making an inventory of my professional life I have realised that I can do it as I have been an assistant from the begin and in so many different areas.
So here we come – working from home mom: a coach and a virtual assistant – becoming a person I have always admire. Do I like it? – Yes, of course. Is it easy? – Not always. Will I change anything in my career so far? – Absolutely not, as it made me a person I am today.
What to write more….? Well, in the times when nobody can be certain of its work place, its relations with others – just be yourself. It is not always easy. It is not always appreciated. It is not always what your family and friends want – though are we living their lives or ours…?
I have met, or rather heard and seen Dorottya at the networking event /conference for Women’s Day this year on 08 March 2014 in The Hague. Due to the fact that I love dance and that I am motivated by passionate people, I was absolutely fascinated and inspired by Dorottya’s story and therefore I asked her to share her dream job with all of you…
Name: Dorottya Kiss
- Born and lived 17 years in Budapest (Hungary)
- Currently living 15 in Amsterdam (The Netherlands)
- The rest …2 years I have worked on ‘sea’…
What is your dream?
I believe this blog wouldn’t have enough place to express my dreams…
Perhaps the best answer would be now- that I’m trying to live my dreams…sometimes with success and sometimes with hope to reach the dream…
What is my dream job?
What I have been doing and doing now…Director & Choreographer & Performing Arts Professional
More recently: Cultural Entrepreneur & Cultural Economists with a Cultural Sociological ‘twist’
In summary I would say: I’am a VISIONARY – CREATIVE & DREAMER – IMPLEMENTER and this is my job…
How did you achieve your goal = dream job?
With a lot of…
- dreaming, dreaming, dreaming…
- failure and standing up and failure and standing up…
- believing, believing, believing
- doing doing doing…
- learning from my faults…
How did you achieve your dream-job? / how do you plan to achieve your goal=dream job?
My answer would be the same as here above the previous answer to the previous question
What is your tip to others concerning the Dream Job / Life?
- dream, dream, dream,
- dare to fail and than stand up
- believe, believe, believe
- collaborate- and understand when you need to operate alone and when you need teamwork
- stay open for anything that comes…
- DO DO DO
- learning from your faults
- surround yourself with motivating people, who give you positive energy, but have enough people who are critically challenging you…
- when things isn’t going the right way…realize YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CHANGE IT…YOU CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY…do something about it….
Who are you?
…WHO AM I?
…A ‘creative’ with a passion for the (performing) arts, (cultural) entrepreneurial activities and for collaborations within and outside the creative fields…
…An individual with -according to my friends, colleagues and teachers- a quite ambitious attitude towards making the world a ‘better place’…
…A person who gets energy by motivating people and helping them to find different ways of perceiving themselves and making the best of their capabilities…
…A woman who -no matter what happened or will happen- refuses to be a victim of people or life in general and who believes: ‘We create our own reality’ …
…and while dreaming and envisioning, creating and implementing, collaborating, motivating and helping others, I’ am Dorottya Kiss who keeps on developing and learning from everything and everybody…
I’ am the Founder & Director of the following non-profit & for-profit companies:
de KISS moves FUSION Dance Company (Since 2005)
BARDooo Art Works – DESIGN (Since 2011)
STAGE 2 CONNECT- The Global Performing Arts Network (Since 2013)
Further on this matter I’ am a:
Dance Industry professional: Dancer & Choreographer (Since 1997)
BA Cultural Scientist (focus: Sociology & Economics of Arts & Culture) (Since 2013)
MA in Cultural Economics & Entrepreneurship (expected 2014)
MA in Arts and Cultural Sciences (expected 2014)
Besides my first passion for the performing arts (specifically dance art) I have been so lucky to discover science as another ‘obsession’. Besides being a director, choreographer/performing arts professional, general manager, and a co-creative designer and thus a cultural entrepreneur for more than 13 years now, my ambition is not to only integrate science into my works on stage, but also to my everyday life as a professional working mainly within the performing arts industry (however I’m open to any other sectors to collaborate with and to use my know-how).
Cultural Economics, Entrepreneurship and Management, (Cultural) Sociology, Cultural Policy Making & Integration Strategies, Business Creation & Branding, Organizations (its theory, sociology and culture), (Cultural) Entrepreneurship, Urban Development Strategies and in general the Cultural and Creative Industries are areas that catch my main interest. My work experience within many layers of the Performing Arts sector has taught me to adjust to a continuously changing environment and tackle (organizational, financial, psychological etc.) problems with an open mind and a persistent creative approach.
COMBINATION OF SKILLS
Without being conceited, I do believe that the balance between passion and know-how, art & creativity, business and science confer me with a unique combination of skills that could contribute to the many non-profit and for-profit organizations out there…
OPEN TO COLLABORATE & CONTRIBUTE
Besides being a continuous entrepreneur I’m also highly interested to collaborate with or work for people/ organizations that seek my contribution on a personal-, organizational-, local-, national-, (EU) or international level.
After teaching (different kind of dance techniques and Pilates) for many years and giving (motivational) workshops for dance industry professionals, recently I also started to give motivational speeches and workshops for a more ‘general’ public. This is a new area I’m discovering and enjoying right now.
Within 7 years from now I will publish my first book. I would like to share my story with others and perhaps inspire people to never give up dreaming and realizing those dreams…
I have met Seiko in 2009. We both we volunteers of ACCESS. In 2009, together with other girlfriends, we created CV group, that was the beginning of Connect with your dream job. Even though Seiko left The Netherlands, she is still my friend and I hope one day we will have a chance to meet again.
Name: Seiko Fujiwara
What is your dream?
Being happy always. No matter how, I just want to feel happy.
What is my dream job?
Maybe something creative and challenging. Job is a really important element of my life. Through working, I can feel my identity, “I’m here”. In other words, a job I can feel identity is my dream job.
How did you achieve your goal = dream job? / how do you plan to achieve your goal=dream job?
I’m in the way. Just try, do everything I can do, get opportunities I can take.
After coming back to Japan from the 7.5 years stay in the Netherlands, I started to study design. Even though I had enough experiences as a software developer, I could not give up to work as a creator. At that point I was already over 40 years which is the age some people may think it’s too old to start a new thing, but I didn’t think so, and tried it.
The result of that I think I got a step ahead. At this moment I’m standing on the point which might change my life. I’ll keep trying, and in that way I will be able to achieve my dream I believe.
What is your tip to others concerning the Dream Job / Life?
Know what you really want and need. Don’t get swayed by others. Keep yourself. And go for it.
Who are you?
I’m a Japanese woman who is living in Tokyo, working as a system analyst, but dreaming of working as a creator. I love designed, beautiful things. 🙂