What do you really want?
It seems as a very easy question, yet people tend to have a problem with it…
When I ask as a coach to my coachees: “What it is you really want?”, people freeze. Their faces become tense and the process of intense thinking starts. Some do not even understand the question. They need a proper instruction and explanation of it. Once they realise the meaning of it, they become defensive and angry:
* “What a stupid question?” * “What do you want from me?” * “Why are you asking that?” * “How should I know?” * “I want what my family/friends/boss wants”
Is that last one really your wish? Or you are so afraid of thinking and dreaming for yourself that you hide behind others to have excuse for not doing anything in your life and for yourself. Is that the excuse for keeping the complains regarding your own life?
“What do you really want?” – This simple question is crucial in daily life. If you do not really know what you want, what your dreams are, it is very difficult to create your life and to get something from it.
Of course sometimes one tends to go whenever life will bring him/her. Though is it what most of us want?
Sometimes you have a desire, yet all: “I must”, “I have to”, “What others will say about it?”, “I cannot really do it”; cause that you even do not dare to dream any further. And you forget about it. You suppress it deep inside you. This is not a solution. Of course not all dreams are able to become true. Yet simple having a dream make us happier and ready for an action.
When you have a dream, you have a goal. When you have a goal you become proactive. When you are proactive strange, unexpected and good things happens around you and your life is more creative and more attractive. Than the fact if you will reach a goal / the dream does not matter anymore as your life is meaningful already. When you know what you want, it is much easier to ask for help. It is much easier to plan and go for it.
In professional life also, if you know what you want / who you wanna be, the focus on it brings the effects faster.
So – what do you really want?